Commitment and Premarital Sex

Posted by: andrew william, 27-Aug-2008

What is your view on premarital sex? What are your feelings about commitment from your partner?

Most lovers engage in premarital sex either for the fun of it or because they believe an eventual commitment from the opposite sex will come through, mainly from the guys.

I admit, guys are afraid to commit. For one reason, he will now have to share all his resources and his years of hard work with another person. He also has to make sacrifices in the future in the form of extra hours of work and limited freedom to do what he used to do before. As for the female partner, she has to find a suitable partner who will be able to care for her, provide a secure and stable future for her  and her offspring. So there is a level of sacrifice and expectancy from each partner.

wait till you tie the knot

The female partner is normally quite sure of her choice once it is made, its up to the guy to make the commitment, which normally does not come through so easily. The only trump card a female can hold is not giving her body to him until marriage. Once it is given before marriage, her chances are slimmer for a commitment from him.

Statistics has shown that partners who engage in premarital sex and eventually marry have a higher rate of divorce compared to those who don’t.

So do you want your relationship to last or not? If you have already engaged in premarital sex, it is not too late. Talk to your partner about abstinence until you both tie the knot.