In and Out of a Relationship
Posted by: andrew william, 24-Apr-2010
There are people who just get into a relationship for the sake of companionship and leave once they are bored or having found another partner. These people never stay long in one relationship. The trouble with them is that they don't realize that they leave a scar in the lives of the people they dump. We must understand that people have feelings and being dumped can do a lot of damage. It demolishes or makes the person feel small and worthless. Some scars can take years to heal.
Its important for us not to jump in and out of an intimate relationship. Always weigh the desire to enter into one and only when things don't work out should one leave a relationship with enough encouragement to the other as to not demoralize that person. Don't leave with saying it was that persons fault etc. Remember the reason you got into the relationship in the first place. Highlight those qualities and leave gracefully, the damage will be minimal.
People have feelings, they are not inanimate objects
On this I would like to highlight some peculiar behaviors of certain women. If you are not interested in a particular guy when he shows signs of interest, I suggest to communicate it graciously. Be mature enough to handle it like an adult. I have seen enough women who will go out with a guy who has shown interest on a date or two and suddenly will totally ignore him by not answering or returning his calls to give him the message that she is not interested.
How about just remaining as friends? If the guy is persistent on his advances after numerous communication that you are not interested, then it would be just, to ignore him then, not give him a heart attack by ignoring him after the initial one or two contacts. Some women are even more brutal in this, even before a guy says hello to her, she decides to totally ignore him to give him the message that she is not interested. To all these women, my message is simple,... please grow up!
Remember, what goes around comes around, if you deliberately hurt others, others will someday hurt you likewise. Its called the law of sowing and reaping.
Some guys always 'hit and run' when they are bored in a relationship. They simply ignore his 'other half' feelings by giving unreasonable excuses in order to cut off their relationship. Worse still, they promise to continue be a friend when they don't mean it!
I totally agree with you...what goes around comes around..so wake up guys !!!