Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Posted by: andrew william Post(s) by this bloggerWell there is no 11th commandment in the bible that says that, but is probably the most significant unwritten law in Malaysia. There was even a foreign jazz band sometime ago in Malaysia who called themselves, “ Face First,” Which they said simply means…”Malaysian don’t want to loose face”!
I read a really interesting article by Xandria Ooi in The Star today entitled “ A pertinent fear.” Her article says it all about offenses and how one could deal with it.
We are not like the westerners where they say what’s on their mind and then forget about it. Its better to voice out then to hold grudges if someone offends you. Sometimes it could be an absolutely minor offense, but we could carry that grudge for years.
" One love, one heart, lets get together and feel alright ",...a song from Bob Marley
Especially when you work with others, offenses are sure to come. When I used to be working for others, the middle management were the worst people to ever work with. But the bosses listen to everything your middle management reports about you. So you need to swallow your pride and submit to them, but that does not mean you don’t have a say if you don’t agree with them. But ultimately you have to agree to their final decision for the good of the company even if the decision may not be the best. This is called doing things in oneness and unity which is better than division.
Every country has their own culture and things we must be aware of when traveling. Malaysian culture is, ‘be nice, don’t offend ‘.
Nobody is perfect, the beauty is, we all work with one another despite our differences and faults. A bunch of imperfect people coming together under a perfect God!