Days of our Lives

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What is your favorite day of the week? Mine is the end of a Saturday and the whole of  Sunday. I finish work about 7pm on Saturday and after letting out a scream that “It is my Saturday”! I treat myself to a nice home cooked mushroom pasta and have it over a glass of white wine while watching TV. (This is the only time in the week I watch TV). Sundays are spent in the church and later with friends and the day ends with fellowship at my brother’s place probably playing our new rediscovered interest, Monopoly. I believe most people have their favorite days. Some say even weekdays are wonderful when you spend that time with someone you love. They say time passes so ever fast when you are with that person.

Moments cherished over the weekend with family

I have of late begun to really enjoy all the days of the week. Be it Monday, Tuesday Wednesday, Thursday or Friday. Today, being Monday was an excellent day for me. I don’t have a partner yet to share my moments but still loved my Monday, why is that so? Is it because I am doing the job I love the most and not for the sake of money? Or is it because I have found something far much more valuable than all the treasures put together in the world?

Just having tea in my garden in the evening, makes my day

When you have learnt to be contended whatever the circumstances, then life becomes more valuable and worth living every moment of it.

I'm Too Sexy...

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My young nephew, 5 years old then, called out to me, and when he got my attention, took off his shirt and sang the song, “ I’m too sexy for my shirt…”

Somewhere deep in our hearts we like pretty, good-looking people and beautiful things. Why is that so? That’s because we all like to be good looking, and are created beautiful. Some of us may not agree to this statement and would say, “yes, right, if you saw me , you would change your mind”. Honestly, how many people in the world have your looks? Your personality? Your fingerprints, your eyes? The answer is none….

Are you created in God's image or are you a better version of a monkey?

You are the only one who has what you have. The real question is more like, are you taking good care of yourself? Are you making the effort to look good? About a year ago, my brother said to me if I ever wanted to get married, its about time I lost some weight and spruced myself up. I lost about 10kgs in 3 months, shaved bald, spotted an earring and started dressing well. The result? I need not explain further.

We all have excuses and point the finger the other way, questions like, what about people who are born deformed? Ugly etc. The answer is, shouldn’t you be grateful you aren’t born that way? The less fortunate are quite contended with their life. Some of them have gone on to achieve great successes which both you and I put together cant match. Such as Helen Keller, Franklin D. Roosevelt etc, the list goes on.

We must understand, we are created in the image of God; there is where we find our identity. If you believe in Darwin’s theory and think you are a better version of a monkey,... guess what will your thinking and behavior be like? Not to forget the way you would take care of yourself.

Once I was asked the question, if I am given a chance to be anyone I wanted to be in the world, who would I wan't to be? The answer is, I just want to be me and be the best I can be, for what i have been created to be.

I hope you will start believing the same for yourself.

A Weighty Matter

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I think this is one of the most sensitive subjects when it comes to talking about appearance, especially to women. Men always feel they look great even when they are out of shape. Women on the other hand feel they are fat even when they are actually skinny.

All of us at some point in time will do our best to look good especially getting our body to follow suit with our personality and appearance. Besides the fact that skinnier people are more attractive, being overweight can have adverse effects on your health. For example the fatty deposits in your midriff releases toxins on a daily basis that forms plaque in your arteries. Research has shown that people who are obese have a higher chance of getting ailments compared to skinnier people.

Does size matter?

It’s not Hollywood glamour that influences us to be skinny,.. being obese can kill. Malaysia has one of the highest cases of obesity in the world; some over 40% of our population are obese. Must be the greasy foods like Char Koey Teoy, Nasi Lemak etc

Love yourself; don’t get into the crowd syndrome of accepting who you are by neglecting your body appearance. Who you are, is about the inside, not outside.

So get in shape.

Finding the Right One

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In a choice of a partner leading to a lifetime commitment, its good to start planning out how to find the right one.

It is important to list down your priorities in a partner you are looking for, be it physical, character and emotion. The importance of this can be likened unto going out to buy a television set without knowing what you really want. There are several models out there and they all are going to look nice.  If you don’t know what you want, chances are you are going to end up with the wrong one. If you plan before hand, such as if you want it with an LCD screen, certain budget, size of the screen, resolution etc it will be easy for you to find what you want and get the best deal.

Kind of a hard choice isn't it?

List down everything you are looking for in a partner and then read it to yourself, you will know what you really want then. So when you are out meeting potential partners, you will find it easier to eliminate the ones who are not in your preference list. For example, if you like children and your potential partner can’t stand children, he or she is obviously not a good choice. Be willing to adjust your list if you learn that it can be shown grace such as not eliminating a potential partner if he or she does not meet minor criteria.

I know a friend who said she would not list down the criteria because God knows what she wants and will find the right partner for her. She is 32, very attractive and had been in and out of a few wrong relationships. So what went wrong? I believe God knows what she wants, but I don’t think she does.

Like produces like, that means everything produces after itself. A durian tree cannot produce mangosteen fruit. If you want a skinny, attractive, and intelligent partner etc, make sure you spruce yourself up to be attractive enough for your potential mate.

Light and Darkness

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When there is not enough light in a place, what do we do? We simply put on the light right? Well darkness actually doesn’t exist. Darkness is the absence of light. Sometimes we feel life is so empty, heading nowhere, and although we may have achievements, accolades, etc but there seem to be a void, a vacuum in our lives, that seem so “dark”. 

Let your light so shine...

Sometimes life may have its ups and downs but why we notice some people in difficult circumstances  can still have the peace and joy compared to others? Why is it they don’t determine their happiness by the circumstances around them but by what they have in their hearts?

Since darkness is the absence of light and if life seems so empty and dark, probably the only thing to do is bring the light inside.

Be an Encouragement

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I am ever so grateful for friends during adversity compared to those who hang around you when things are going well. I have very few good friends of such who are like a beacon or light when you are in pain or when life seem like you are treading through darkness. The world has enough people who will discourage you. Life is at times very trying and challenging.

Consider others better than yourself

When things don’t go so well, true friends are the ones who will take time to check on you. Sometimes the simplest gestures such as saying encouraging words, visiting you or a phone call, are the ones you will value the most.

These genuine friends  may not hang around you most of the time or even when you are having fun, but will be there when you are distressed or discouraged. The ones whom you spend a great time with, may not be there for you when things don't go too well.

Let us be that friend to others… true friends who will not take others for granted.

Weekend with my Nephews

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I have three wonderful nephews. I had the joy and fun of spending the weekend with two of them. Jerome the youngest, was with his parents while Jared and Jeremy the older two, 9 and 7 years old, spent their time with me.

We didn’t do the usual as what most adults would plan to do. (I had asked them earlier what they wanted to do and suggested some ideas too). We decided to visit a friend’s shop and then go window-shopping at Robinsons in the Gardens at Mega Mall. My nephews found this football pool table in one of the clothes shop and had a ball of a time with it.

Unless you become like little children

Jeremy agreed to window-shopping, not knowing what it was all about until later when he asked me, “is window shopping buying windows”? I had to explain to him. He agreed to the new fun of doing what adults with limited resources do.

At the end of the day when we retired to my home exhausted and having had so much fun, I learnt something from my two nephews; 

How many times have we been so caught up in the world with our schedules and agendas, that we forget to live like little children and learn to have fun?

Why are Women Hot and Cold?

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I saw one of my female friends wearing a t-shirt with the words, “hot”,in front and “cold”, at the back. It reminded me of an issue, most men suffer in silence…

Why are women hot and cold?

Women are the sweetest creatures on earth that God has created and are the most wonderful gift to the world, especially to men. They have talents and gifts beyond measure that even men cannot possess. They care, they are sensitive, kind, loving, ability to see things that don’t move, (they can spot the keys on the very table, men would have spent the last hour searching for) etc.

They have the ability to sense danger, con men, crooks and will warn their partners, who will at times still get into trouble for not heeding to their advice.

" Can't you see I'm busy with my hobby?!"

But why do they sometimes, behave like they don’t care? They will at times seem to treat their partners like they don’t exist. I believe they still do love and care for their partners.But why do they do that?

A few good men would like to know.

Feelings or Commitment?

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Most relationships start off with the mutual feelings of attraction for one another. This could develop into a long-term partnership such as marriage. Unfortunately, feelings don’t always last forever. I have heard from married couples that say there are times when they don’t even “feel” like they love their spouses. Nevertheless, they are committed to stick to the relationship.

So what are really feelings and how do they contribute to the relationship? Does the absence or diminishing of it make the relationship any lesser?

There are couples that fall for each other based on mutual desires, such as trust, compatibility and a sense of enjoying one other’s company. They may not have the so-called “fuzzy feelings” but are committed to love and see the relationship through. Typical cases are arranged marriage couples that stick together and have a more successful married life compared to the fairy tale romance marriage, which have a higher incidence of divorce.

The common pitfall with feelings is there is too much expectation from either partner to maintain fairy tale feelings throughout their relationship. When one partner begins to loose that feelings, (not having lost his or her love for the partner) the other partner who bases the relationship on feelings may get disappointed when there is an absence of certain expected behavior.

“Hi honey,… I love you”.

Are we being influence by Hollywood that we base our moral standards and love life from the movie screen? Has the silver screen blinded us to believe that feelings alone is good enough for one to fall in and out of a relationship? Does feelings give us the rights to exercise the liberty to enter into adulterous relationship with another’s spouse? Have we lost our moral standards?

Don’t get me wrong, feelings are important,.. but love is not based on feelings.

What are your Intentions?

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I recently met a girl whom I was quite interested in. What attracted me to her was her intelligence, sense of humor and our common faith.

I had just recently broken up with my girlfriend and wasn’t really intending on jumping into another relationship, not at least for the next six months. All I wanted was to be her friend and get to know her better. We struck off well, but our follow up wasn’t very good.

I wonder,... what are his intentions

Did I move too fast? Did she see through me? They say women’s “neocortex” (between the left and right brain) are more developed than men’s which give them a better insight or gut feelings to people’s motives or intentions. I find that an amazing strength!

Every woman I have met is different in character and the way they respond to the dating game.